Relationship expert reveals how ‘threshold moments’ are crucial to a long-lasting marriage

An Australian relationship expert and father-of-four has detailed how ‘threshold moments’ help maintain a happy marriage.

In a TikTok video Newcastle celebrant Darren Chapman said ‘threshold moments’ refer to when you see your partner for the first time after a number of hours – such as in the morning or after work.

In the clip Mr Chapman said it’s crucial to ensure these moments are ‘positive interactions’ to feel the connection with your partner.

‘When you see your spouse for the first time in the morning and when you both get home from work, that’s a really important moment,’ Mr Chapman said in the video.

‘You can make each threshold moment a positive experience – a moment when you feel connected and in love.’

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In a TikTok video Newcastle celebrant Darren Chapman (left) said ‘threshold moments’ refer to when you see your partner for the first time after a number of hours – such as in the morning or after work

To make the most of these small but essential moments with your spouse, Mr Chapman outlined five simple steps.

First he recommended smiling and showing your partner how genuinely pleased you are to see them.

‘It’s an amazing thing when you walk into the room and your spouse’s face lights up,’ he said.

After seeing your partner, be sure to engage with them by asking questions such as ‘how did you sleep’ or ‘how was your day?’

‘Be interested in what they have to say,’ Mr Chapman said.

To ensure these moments of interaction are positive, he recommended smiling, asking questions to generate conversation and avoid looking at your phone

Mr Chapman then recommends giving them a ‘hug or kiss’ and ensuring you don’t look at your phone during these interactions.

‘Take your time, don’t rush off and don’t pull out your phone,’ he said.

Giving your partner your undivided attention places emphasis on their significance in your life.

Lastly before heading off to work for the day, he also said to make sure you say goodbye to your spouse.

Mr Chapman has also released a guidebook titled ‘The Happy Marriage’ to help couples build a stronger connection, get closer with date ideas and discuss important topics – including money, family, sex and parenting.

The book can be purchased on Amazon and Apple Books for $20.